So What Is a Parenting Plan?

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Parenting after separation can feel like navigating uncharted waters. How do you make sure your kids feel supported? How do you manage the logistics? And how do you minimise conflict while still meeting everyone’s needs?

This is where a parenting plan comes in. Think of it as a roadmap to help you and your ex-partner work together for the benefit of your children. While it might not solve every challenge, it provides structure and clarity—two things every co-parenting relationship needs.

Let’s break down what a parenting plan is, how it works and why it’s worth the effort.

What Is a Parenting Plan?

A parenting plan is a written agreement between separated parents about how they will share responsibilities for their children. It’s designed to cover the practical day-to-day arrangements as well as the bigger-picture decisions about your kids’ upbringing.

Unlike a court order, a parenting plan isn’t legally binding. However, it’s an incredibly useful tool to reduce misunderstandings and prevent disputes. Plus, if you ever need to go to court, having a clear parenting plan can show that you’ve already made an effort to work cooperatively and it can be used to evidence what you have agreed on in the past.

What Can a Parenting Plan Include?

A good parenting plan is detailed enough to reduce confusion but flexible enough to adapt as your children grow. Some of the things it might cover include:

  • Living Arrangements
    Where your children will live and how much time they’ll spend with each parent.
  • Schooling and Education
    Decisions about school enrolments, extracurricular activities, and homework routines.
  • Special Days
    How you’ll handle birthdays, holidays, and other special occasions.
  • Communication
    How you and your ex-partner will communicate about the children (e.g., via email, text, or a shared calendar) and how the children will stay in touch with the other parent.
  • Health and Wellbeing
    Agreements about medical care, immunisations, and any special health needs.
  • Dispute Resolution
    A process for resolving disagreements, like mediation, if issues arise.

This isn’t an exhaustive list—your parenting plan can include anything relevant to your family’s circumstances. The key is to be clear, practical, and child-focused.

Why Do You Need a Parenting Plan?

Parenting after separation can get complicated fast, especially when emotions are running high. A parenting plan helps you avoid unnecessary stress by putting agreements in writing.

Here’s why it’s worth the effort:

  1. Clarity
    A parenting plan ensures everyone knows what’s expected, reducing the chances of miscommunication or disagreements.
  2. Flexibility
    Because it’s not legally binding, a parenting plan can be updated easily if your circumstances change—say, a new job, a house move, or the kids starting a new school.
  3. Focus on the Kids
    It keeps the discussions centred on what’s best for your children.
  4. Evidence of Cooperation
    If you ever need to go to court, a parenting plan shows the court that you’ve made an effort to collaborate and prioritise your children’s needs.

How Do You Create a Parenting Plan?

In Australia, parenting plans are recognised under Section 63C of the Family Law Act 1975. While you can create one yourselves, it’s often helpful to get professional guidance to ensure nothing important is overlooked.

Here are the steps to get started:

  1. Start the Conversation
    Sit down with your ex-partner (ideally in a neutral setting) to discuss what arrangements will work best for your children.
  2. Focus on the Kids
    Keep the discussions child-focused. What’s in their best interests? What will help them feel safe, secure, and supported?
  3. Put It in Writing
    Once you’ve agreed on the key points, write them down in plain language.
  4. Seek Legal Advice
    While a parenting plan doesn’t need to be signed by a lawyer, it’s a good idea to seek legal advice to ensure the plan aligns with Family Law Act and doesn’t inadvertently disadvantage you.
  5. Review and Adjust
    Life changes—so will your parenting plan. Revisit it regularly to make sure it still works for your family.

What If We Can’t Agree?

Not every separation is amicable, and that’s okay. If you and your ex-partner can’t agree on a parenting plan, there are options to help you move forward:

  • Mediation
    A neutral mediator can help facilitate discussions and find common ground.
  • Parenting Orders
    If mediation doesn’t work, you can apply to the court for parenting orders. Unlike a parenting plan, these orders are legally binding and enforceable.

At Brisbane Family Law Centre, we encourage mediation and collaborative solutions wherever possible. These approaches often result in better outcomes for children—and less stress for parents.

What Makes a Good Parenting Plan?

The best parenting plans share a few common traits:

  • Specificity: Clear and detailed agreements leave less room for interpretation.
  • Flexibility: Life happens—your plan should allow for changes.
  • Child-Focused: The needs and wellbeing of your children should always come first.

Remember, what works for one family might not work for another. Your parenting plan should reflect your unique circumstances and priorities.

Want to Learn More?

Parenting plans can feel overwhelming, especially if you’re new to the process. But you don’t have to figure it out alone. At Brisbane Family Law Centre, we’re here to help you navigate co-parenting with confidence.

If you’d like more information or assistance creating a parenting plan, get in touch. We’ll guide you through the process, ensuring your plan works for your family and aligns with Australian Family Law.

Final Thoughts

At Brisbane Family Law Centre, we know that divorce isn’t just a legal process—it’s a personal one. We’re here to help you navigate the complexities of divorce, property settlements, and parenting arrangements with clarity and care.

Whether you need guidance on filing for divorce, resolving disputes, or planning for your future, our team is equipped to support you. 

Book in a free call with us today!
Written by Jaime Stefanac

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